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偶尔做些善事. So, let's say someone ahead of you paid for you and you pay for the guy behind you, you're not really getting anything for free because you're buying the other one, but you've just increased the total happiness quotient significantly with that act.
More and more we're seeing people who go through the drive-through at McDonald's or Wendy's or at a coffee shop and say I'll pay for the guy behind me because the guy behind has already put in their order and so you know how much they're buying and it's not usually very much. There even are situations where people have been paying it forward at a rate of maybe 10, or 15, or 20, 或者30辆车, 为下一个买单.
So, you got yours paid for and you say well I'll 为下一个买单 and the highest number string was in Manitoba, 228 consecutive cars paid for the lunch or breakfast for the guy behind them.
这是怎么回事? I think there's some very good evidence that random acts of kindness make you feel better. In the list of activities that make people feel better and make them feel better all day and maybe even all week; generosity or giving something to a stranger makes people feel better.
The drive-through has some significant advantages. Number one: You don't have to meet the guy that you just gave a freebie to. Number two: they're not asking for drugs or for something to buy drugs or for alcohol. You're just buying them their breakfast or a cup of coffee. So, 如果你经历过, 这发生在我身上, actually about a month ago I was going through getting a small lunch at a drive-through and the guy said, “你知道, 坐在你前面的人为你付了钱." And I went, "Okay, I'll pay for the guy behind me." And I thought all day what a gift it was that the guy in front of me was being kind to me and I hope the guy behind me had a better day.
We all know about negative psychology which is one of the characteristics of people who are depressed. What are the characteristics of people who are anxious? 好吧, more and more the Journal of Happiness Studies is looking at the psychology of people who are happy. This is particularly important for women because I think women know this. 第一：珍惜你的幸福. Actually doing some kind of program of counting your blessings everyday makes people feel better.
So, they randomized people to counting their blessings versus counting the red lights you get stuck at and low and behold people who count their blessings six months later feel better. Be specific, so you need to say what five things are you most grateful for?
第二，管理好你的心理健康. So, you know when you're negative and you know when you're grumpy and you need to change the channel. Change the radio station and get on to a happier or calmer radio station.
The Women's Health Initiative looked at women who entered the study with a positive frame of mind. Now, these are women who didn't have cancer and they weren't sick, and they were 45 to 75. And women who were high on an optimism score when they entered the study compared to women who were high on a cynicism score; nothing's going to come out right, 一切都会变糟, 等等. Five years later the women who were optimistic had less heart disease and they had less cancer.
大发娱乐来谈谈这些行为. 第一：珍惜你的幸福, Number two: Thank a mentor. 这并不意味着给他们发邮件. It means write them a letter on real paper with a real pen and if you can, deliver it in person. 再一次, 做过那种行为的人, 考虑做这件事, 这样做, 做完之后, 让人们感觉更好的时间更长. 第三：多做善事.
大发娱乐陌生人, whether it's something that you just pack up your clothes and take them to the DI or whatever or paying for their lunch or breakfast from the guy behind you in the drive-through, those kinds of things not only make you feel better thinking about it, but it makes the person behind you think about 这样做 for someone else.
There are behaviors that can improve your mood and improving your mood improves your well-being, 降低血压. It helps decrease your risk of heart disease and there's some evidence that cancer as well has a lower rate in people who are optimistic.
So, 下次你去买咖啡的时候, think about what it might mean to you and the person behind you to pick up the tab for them.
更新日期：2020年2月14日
最初发布日期：2013年12月13日